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Wednesday, July 19, 2006

ok, so i took the bait

amy sohn is a writer in new york, apparently in my neighborhood even. she writes the "mating" column for New York magazine, meaning that she is, basically, a poor man's carrie bradshaw. a minor-league name-brand writer with just enough snark and sass to get away without thinking very deeply about her topic du jour. unfortunately her new topic du jour is parenting. this is a shame.

let's take a look at her pointlessly nasty and grossly inaccurate blog. as mrs nice guy describes it, "it's crap writing and mostly crap thinking. but with just enough 'holy shit, i've had that thought too' moments to keep me reading through to the end. (and then hate myself for it.)" because i am good to you, i am including my less-funny-than-i-wanted-them-to-be marginalia in italics:

Here in my neighborhood, Park Slope, I am constantly encountering insane stay at home moms (SAHMs). And I have come to the all too un-PC conclusion that stay-at-home motherhood, despite the way our culture lionizes it, is bad for the child and bad for the mom. And bad for society. It's just plain bad.

hmm, yes. our culture lionizes stay-at-home moms. simply adores them. gives them health insurance and writes songs about them. and the moms i met in the nine months i was a stay-at-home dad? totally insane. we're talking feces-throwing multiple personality-having batshit bananas. clearly this is the beginning of a well-reasoned and researched, articulate treatise on parenthood.

Most of the SAHMs I know are really miserable. The working moms I know hate their jobs and hate working but they're not miserable in the kind of extreme and neurotic, soul crippling, Zoloft inducing Yellow Wallpaper-type way the SAHMs are.

let's stop here a moment and marvel. the moms i know--and boy do i know me some moms--tend not to have crushed souls or zoloft-stocked medicine cabinets. they, in fact, tend to be smart, rational, funny people who are candid about the trade-offs of stay-at-home parenting. oh, also, they actually like parenting. talk about crazy!

When you spend all day with a baby you go a little crazy and I don't think the SAHMs realize how crazy they are. All these college-educated smart women who once had opinions about things and read the newspaper now can only talk about poop and pancakes with kale and Veggie Bootie and natural Cheerios versus regular ones.

first of all, what's wrong with talking about poop? poop is funny. second of all, kale pancakes? ca-ca-crazy! i'm starting to rethink my affinity for some of these moms and start to hating on them too!

My husband and I go to this playground called the Tot Lot near our house and we nicknamed it "Compare and Despair" because all any of the mothers talk about is, "Is she crawling? Is she walking? Oh my goodness, she has so much hair/so many teeth. She's so tall/long/verbal/expressive."

oh dear "compare and despair" is a mite clever isn't it? but amy, do you want to know why parents talk about kids with other parents? because, just maybe, in the tot lot (and this is just a theory) new parenthood is the one thing these people, who are otherwise strangers unto each other, immediately HAVE IN COMMON. sure, some of them are pushier than others and some of them smoke in the tot lot and some of them are passive aggressive and others are nervous nellies. but hey, the tot lot is a free country and it's fun to see the different types of parenting on display. lighten up. it's like a little-people zoo!

It starts with "How old?" and then from "How old?" they get into what their kid is doing versus what your kid is doing versus what all kids should be doing and after half an hour of this you're ready to stay inside for the rest of the summer. They sit around all day watching other babies play and worrying about their own baby's development. This is a lot like watching paint dry.

yes, this is true. every conversation i have WITH A STRANGER in the tot lot tends to start with "how old" because this is a surefire way to start a conversation WITH A STRANGER. it's a golden ice breaker. it's like "what's your major" and "so, what do you do" and "is it hot in here or is that just you" all rolled into one. from "how old" it's natural to talk about the tots for a little while before branching into other more cheerful topics like global warming and the impending third world war. but maybe some people prefer just keeping it to the kids when they're talking WITH A STRANGER.

One day I went to the tot lot with my daughter. I took her out and had plopped her by a play structure when behind me I heard two women talking. "Some babies never crawl," I heard the one say to the other reassuringly. I picked up my kid and we left. That was it. I just couldn't take it. I couldn't stand to be near it even though neither of these women was talking to me.

ah, yes. so instead of letting your kid play peacefully in a playground designed just for her, you took her back to your apartment (or some cafe? or ye olde pink pussycatte dominatrixe supply shoppe?) because you bristled at overheard conversation between two people you didn't know ... conversation i might add that sounded more "reassuring" (to use your words) than menacing; conversation about the shared travails of parenting because maybe some people like to talk about what's on their minds, especially when they don't have a regularly published column in which to air their thoughts.

By virtue of what these mothers do all day, they become obsessed with baby care. They don't "have time" to read the paper or read a book. They don't "have time" to go out and see a movie alone or see friends or go to a museum or have an original thought. So instead they talk about what obsesses them: baby shit, the Britax Boulevard versus the Graco Snugride, the Techno XT versus the Volo, the flushable diapers versus cloth.

if this is in fact true--if all the moms you know only talk about stroller brands and poop (which, i remind you, is funny)--then it's your fault for hanging out with boring people. but i suspect that you are exaggerating in order to work yourself into a froth of faux indignity in order to have some weak peg upon which to hang your smug disdain.

But the worst part of all of this is that the babies/children pick up on all of this neurotic energy and grow up to be really disturbed individuals, totally incapable of making decisions on their own. They don't play with other kids; they just play with Mom. They don't learn how to solve problems on their own or fall on their ass or all the things they're supposed to learn because Mom is constantly shielding them from danger. Of course this is all a big generalization but in general, this is what I observe.

"of course this is all a big generalization" but you don't care about trivial things like accuracy because you smell a big fat you-go-grrl snarky book deal.

As a result of all this danger shielding, Mom is exhausted and depleted and brain-dead, can't talk about anything but baby stuff with her husband, resents her husband for working even though he's got to do it to support her choice to be an SAHM, and then feels guilty if she considers going back to work because somebody drilled it into her brain-dead skull that working mothers are evil. I don't know who the somebody is. I really don't. These are not Republican women I am describing here. These are Park Slope women.

yes, when i wasn't taking orders from the What To Expect Posse -- when i wasn't busy taking notes on the latest stroller technology and comparing my child's physical development to that of other babies -- i was busy thinking about how evil working moms are. especially my wife. boy did i ever resent her for allowing me nearly a year at home with my child. and the moms who were working because they couldn't afford to be a stay at home mom? they were worse than brain dead, they were poor!

I suspect it is the husbands who discourage them from working. Because it's the social equivalent of taking Viagra. "What does your wife do for a living?" asks Jeff, the squash partner at the Racquet Club. "Oh, she's at home with our son," says Michael, and then boasts.

dude. the next time i talk to my squash partner Jeff at the Racquet Club i am totally going to try this line because it's like Viagra ... and ... i really want ... to fuck him.

In our family, we have a Tibetan nanny 2 full days a week and Jake and I split the rest. Our kid is adaptable because she's around lots of different people. There is nothing that only I can do for her. When she's sick and upset we hire our sitter for an extra night and by the time she leaves our kid is better. That's how good she is. We pay up the wazoo for the child care, especially since it's only part time. We love our sitter so much we just bought her cable. But I believe this is a far better option than having one of us (Jake or me) commit to being a full-time stay-at-home parent. Our brains would explode. We would resent the other one no matter what. Our kid would be seriously screwed up and we would go into a financial sinkhole.

so you and your husband -- both writers, right? who write at home? -- have a nanny two days a week and the rest of the time you are ... say it with me, now ... evil stay at home parents? you are just walking the walk, aren't you? and you love your Tibetan sitter so much you just bought her cable! that's so sweet and not at all patronizing. how about social security? also:


But give me a week to live the way they do (which I've done from time to time) and by the end I am thanking my lucky stars that I work. You can only eat at Moutarde so many times, propping an infant on your knee and eating with one hand before you think, I'd rather be on the roof of Soho House alone getting a tan. Speaking of which, how about this idea: Brooklyn House? I'm thinking of taking over the Montauk Club and turning it into a private club for Brooklyn Bohos. Indie rock concerts, a sun deck, and ON-SITE CHILD CARE staffed solely by Tibetans.

a whole week you've done from time to time? wow, that's tuff! but mostly, i love this idea! working getting a tan is so much more fulfilling than parenting. and tibetans are so great they should all have cable. let's fob our kids off on tibetans. forget those west indian nannies! too talk-backy! as for brooklyn house? this is the only well-thought out part of this diatribe. us park slopers are not privileged enough, dammit!

That is the end of my rant. I would turn this into a million-dollar book proposal if I could but I don't think there's enough to sustain 500 pages. Still, I wouldn't mind going head to head on Fox with that twiglike evil shiksa Ann Coulter. Keep your eye out for something by me in an upcoming issue of New York on a topic related to parenting. I'll post the link when it's up.

i am sure you will, amy sohn. i am sure you will.

54 Comments:

Blogger Natalie said...

Wow this lady a few fries short of a happy meal. I very much enjoyed reading your responses to her absurdly nonsensical ranting. I'm sure her kid will thank her later for all the time he/she got to spend with the Tibetan nanny. =)

7/19/2006 7:04 PM  
Blogger Dutch said...

that feeling of irrepressible rage I used to feel listening to that crooked-faced-bitch sarah jessica parker spout cliche after cliche while thinking her column aloud on SATC while my wife and her freinds watched it in the otehr room, I felt that same rage reading this dumb bird's ignorant screed.

But you sir: your response was the antidote.

7/19/2006 7:21 PM  
Blogger Cass said...

Wow. That woman's editors must really go to town before any of her writing actually goes to print.

She is a seriously untalented writer. I think I've read high school essays that are better formulated and expressed than that.

7/19/2006 8:46 PM  
Blogger bernalgirl said...

"because you smell a big fat you-go-grrl snarky book deal"

zactly. that shallow, underthought, unresearched crap worked for Leslie Gordon Steiner, why not her?

very nice responses, though. much funnier than you give credit.

7/20/2006 12:06 AM  
Anonymous Jujubee said...

Amazing. Did you notice she used "amazing" twice within the first two paragraphs? And her daughter is almost a YEAR. When Strunk and White were writing about The Elements of Style, they were surely thinking of her.

It's a good thing she was above getting to know any of those braindead stay at home moms. She might have accidentally discovered that they talk about other things once get to know each other better, and that might ruin her prospects for a book deal.

7/20/2006 1:16 AM  
Blogger stay-at-home mommy said...

Wow. Just wow. I'd write more, but apparently I'm too stupid and braindead to come up with an original thought.

7/20/2006 1:22 AM  
Blogger Chrissy said...

"When she's sick and upset we hire our sitter for an extra night and by the time she leaves our kid is better."

I had to go back and reread that part! So what she's saying is instead of comforting her own child she pays the nanny extra to deal with it. God forbid her or her husband actually takes time out of their busy schedule to be a nuturing parent. People like this make me think violently!
Bravo to you and your responses!

7/20/2006 7:36 AM  
Anonymous marian said...

fear not. she's like someone someone standing atop a tall building in an electrical storm holding a lightning rod. karma is.

7/20/2006 9:55 AM  
Blogger Candace said...

So she's judging other people's choices while simultaneously justifying and rationalizing *her* choices?

Yeah, she's a fucking brain surgeon, that one.

And was it really necessary to write "Tibetan nanny"? Did we need to know the nanny's country-of-origin? No, we did not.

7/20/2006 11:36 AM  
Anonymous kate in salt lake said...

I took the bait and clicked the link to read her entire entry. I found this line to be offensive I almost threw my computer across the room:

"Childcare should be the province of immigrant women trying to get a leg up."

Do real people actually say things like this?

7/20/2006 12:13 PM  
Anonymous crazedparent said...

Clearly someone told her that if she wanted attention (akashe, as a mom, should "stir the Mommy Wars" pot. "Link to Hirshman...link to mothersmovement.org...say really crass things about SAHMs" they said. And *she* took the bait. She's a dolt. And your response is spot on.

7/20/2006 4:39 PM  
Anonymous crazedparent said...

...and on attention, i meant to add aka - book deal...

7/20/2006 4:39 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Is this real? Someone actually gets paid to spout this festering...(I was gonna say poop, but I remembered that MNG is right, poop is funny, and funny Amy aint). Somebody should lock this woman in a closet with her own child.

7/20/2006 6:27 PM  
Anonymous Molly Molly Oxen Free said...

What a terrible writer she is!
I think you should send your comments to the editor.
"...in order to have some weak peg upon which to hang your smug disdain"? Mr. Nice Guy, that is HI-larious and totally appropriate, but you might have to change your name after that post!

7/20/2006 9:03 PM  
Blogger Veronica Mitchell said...

Loved your comments.

And this braindead SAHM at least reads enough to master basic grammar. Maybe that's another job she expects uneducated immigrants do.

7/20/2006 9:24 PM  
Blogger Trish said...

I think my head nearly exploded there.

So she's judging everyone else, because only she makes the right choices (everyone else around her being complete morons, of course), and she's ignoring her child completely in so doing??? Let the nanny deal with her; she's sick, and I just can't be bothered, because fine dining calls??????

Get a clue! I feel rather sorry for her child for having such a pretentious snotty mom. And I feel really badly for her nanny - Tibetan or not.

7/21/2006 12:28 AM  
Blogger Trish said...

Also, I clicked on the blog. And the first line made me bristle. "Having a kid makes you neglect the most important things", she writes. I'm sorry; I thought my kid was the most important thing.

Apparently, my priorities are all screwed up.

7/21/2006 12:30 AM  
Blogger Alexis said...

Holy shit - I want to slap her.

7/21/2006 9:38 AM  
Blogger Waya said...

NAHHH! I don't think this lady is real!! Who would be THIS STUPID?! WOW! I.AM.SPEECHLESS!

7/21/2006 10:18 AM  
Blogger Mrs. T said...

Hey Waya, I had the same thought. No way in hell is this woman for real.
I don't even care that what she writes about isn't researched- look at Dave Barry- I think he's hilarious, and probably isn't so much into the research. She's just dumb as hell.

7/21/2006 10:32 AM  
Blogger cluelesscarolinagirl said...

Snaps to YOU, my snarky genius!

7/21/2006 11:58 AM  
Anonymous lala said...

ummmn, you're ALLOWED to say "shiksa"? Where I come frum that's not cool.

The rest of it might have been out of a comedy skit, it was that unreal......

7/21/2006 12:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Thank you for writing this. I read Amy's piece today and took it to heart as I am not only a SAHM but a friend of hers. Sure, it's her opinion, but it is also hurtful to those, as you say, actually enjoy parenting. Thanks for your words. I hope to see you around the 'hood!

7/21/2006 1:15 PM  
Blogger andrea said...

I too am speechless. She has to be joking, right? A truly disgusting opinion.

7/21/2006 1:57 PM  
Anonymous Fran said...

New York Magazine has an article on dissatisfied SAHMs (an abbreviation the I had never heard before) who post their "insights" on urbanbaby.com and abuse their fellow SAHMs and Working Mothers. I think that this will probably turn into the new Chick Lit. How depressing!

http://www.newyorkmetro.com/news/features/17668/

AC seems a bit bitter, maybe she had a tight deadline and wrote her blog off the cuff. I cannot believe that anyone could be so purposefully vitriolic. Good comeback, though!

7/21/2006 3:23 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amy Sohn has built a career out of writing about her vagina, and from time to time will put out an opinion piece about a topic on which she has no expertise, or a review of a book she hasn't read.

Pays the rent, I guess.

7/21/2006 4:17 PM  
Blogger Miss Violet said...

Psychotic and bizarre. Her mother must have been one of those neurotic SAHMs.

7/21/2006 7:07 PM  
Blogger Danielle said...

How can she formulate such strong opinions on something she knows nothing about? I am a SAHM/professional blogger. I know from personal experience that being a full-time SAHM, I might go a little batty but I would never dismiss all SAHMs as such. It's not for me but I would never declare that it's wrong for everyone.

For my family, the decision for me to leave my job was a financial one but also MY OWN as I expect it is for many families. If you have a choice and you want to, why not stay home with your child?

I used to love Amy's writing but that was 12 years ago. Now that I'm a little wiser, I see that either I was naive or she has started drinking her own Kool-Aid.

Basing her theory that staying at home with your child is bad for the world on moms she's overheard at the playground? Has she ever talked to any of them instead of eavesdropped? What about attending a mom's group, La Leche Meeting, exercise or music class where she might get a chance to know some of these moms better?

The world might be better off if she became a SAHM and stopped subjecting us (or at least New York Magazine readers) to her uninformed crap.

7/21/2006 10:45 PM  
Blogger zygote daddy said...

With regard to the nanny thing:

What really kills me is that she is so incredibly desperate to show how liberal and enlightened she is, but instead (as is all too often the case) she ends being painfully narrow-minded and condescending.

"Look at me! I hired a nanny from Tibet! You know, the magical place in that Brad Pitt Movie? And I even bought her cable! Aren't I amazingly amazing? I'm SO more liberal than you!"

7/21/2006 11:30 PM  
Anonymous angie said...

mr. nice guy,
your comments were so much more witty and funny than hers! I can see why nobody has picked up any of her pilots. It used to be so hard to be a professional writer. . .

7/22/2006 11:18 AM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

Ok, I hardly EVER say this, but this lady TRULY should not have children.
I'm SO LIVID that people in this day and age actually think like this.
And their poor child! Instead of mommy and daddy taking care of her when she's sick, they just have the nanny come over and take care of her?
And this statement-"Childcare should be the province of immigrant women trying to get a leg up."-so to her, having a child really IS only an accessory-I mean, she doesn't have to DO anything with the child-that's what "immigrant women trying to get a leg up" are for.

7/22/2006 12:11 PM  
Anonymous melissa b. said...

Thankfully, my head exploded and I could not feel the pain anymore after I read, "my Tibetan nanny..."

Thank you for an articulate response, that was the balm we all needed after reading that entire thing.

7/22/2006 12:47 PM  
Anonymous Kristin said...

That was a brilliant rebuttal.

She seems the sort to google herself often, I hope she reads this.

7/22/2006 12:49 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm on the verge of motherhood myself. It's all still a strange new country and I only have a rough roadmap. But I admit to feelings of trepidation for some of the reasons Amy mentions: I don't think motherhood should be an all-encompassing thing, I do think women should have other interests, and Park Slope moms scare the hell out of me too. Hyper-parenting seems like something to mock, not engage in.

However, when she brings up the Tibetan nanny, she loses me completely. The debate about Sahm (or dads) vs. Working is basically economic. In focusing on her particular and absurdly privleged case, (how many of us are stay at home writers married to stay at home writers who can actually afford to do this, have health insurance, and not be selling Amway or crack on the side?) -- Amy misses the boat: as you said, what about her nanny's social security?

And what about parents who (gasp) can't afford cheap foreign labor? Even part time?

(I'm curious -- did she buy her nanny cable at her nanny's house as a bonus? Or did she get cable at her own house so her Tibetan nanny has something to do? -- when she's not chanting and ringing bells and making patterns in the sand..., I mean...I am assuming the latter?)

Thing is, exploiting immigrant women (who usually have their own kids -- and, by the way, who's watching them?) as a way to empower yourself...not so good. Not realizing there's another tier of SAHM besides the rich trophy wives ... and freelancers with book deals... namely, mothers whose salaries would go entirely towards childcare if they did choose to work ... completely stupid.

The Tibetan nanny thing as a trend does creep me out, I admit. I thought it was a Williamsburg trend? Has it moved to the Slope? (Nothing against the women of Tibet, it's just...so...well -- nom myoho renge kyo. (sp))

Someone should write an essay on that.

7/22/2006 12:59 PM  
Blogger karla said...

Wow! That chick is...can i use the c-word here? Oh, alright, I'll keep it clean. She's maybe the most gigantic turd of a human I've ever heard of.

But in my head, I'm calling her the c-word.

7/22/2006 1:07 PM  
Blogger honey said...

thankyouthankyouthankyou!!! I want to be your friend, you always think the right thoughts about evil, patronizing idiots like this "writer" (to use the term loosely).

She thinks *my* kid is going to be neurotic & disturbed because I'm a SAHM? Oh boy, I can't wait for HER daughter to write about the nurturing she only received when the Tibetan nanny was around. Bleh! It's mommies like her that belong on the adult version of the movie "Mean Girls".

I know it "takes all kinds [of people] to make the world go 'round" and all that but can't we exile stupid, shallow people to live in a country all their own?

If she stuck around and tried to get to know some of us SAHMs, she might find out that we do read about what's going on in the world and concern ourselves with rampant consumerism, unfair wage policies here and abroad, the environmental costs of the mining and plastics industries (not just disposable diapers), etc. When we're not discussing our child's obsession with Veggie Booty, of course.

7/22/2006 2:01 PM  
Anonymous mctex said...

"but i suspect that you are exaggerating in order to work yourself into a froth of faux indignity in order to have some weak peg upon which to hang your smug disdain."

F'ing genius. You rock.

7/22/2006 9:06 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I don't even know where to start her column is so poorly reasoned and written. One thing that struck me in her rant against SAHMs is that she's being awfully short-sighted. Sure, it can be dull hanging out with a newborn, but once kids can walk and talk, they become a Hell of a lot more entertaining to be around. Also, her argument that kids are better off being taken care of by immigrants is completely racist. I like how she suggests that only college educated women should outsource childcare. Presumably, Tibetan women and women who didn't go to college will find the task of childcare more stimulating. Just plain ridiculous.

7/23/2006 9:44 AM  
Blogger Sam said...

I'm fairly laid back and don't begrudge anyone their opinions on the world of parenting and children. Except the (bitch) author of the article you just discussed. I think she should be shot, or better yet stuck in a room with her child all day and night every day until she becomes an insane SAHM.

7/23/2006 9:07 PM  
Anonymous UpsideUp said...

but wait. you left this one out:

If you are a college-educated woman with a child, you should outsource your child care. Childcare is not really as hard as it’s cracked up to be. Hand him a pot and spoon and the kid is happy. Childcare should be the province of immigrant women trying to get a leg up. I do not believe it is not "better for the child" to be with his mother. I believe it is better for the child to have a mother with some modicum of a life -- whether it’s volunteering, graduate degree, or part-time work.

so many things to comment on. must focus. regain control. smoke. coming. out. ears. argghh.

7/23/2006 9:56 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know working parents, stay-at-home parents and parents in between. This woman, though, is in a separate category - a parent that does not, in fact, actually want to care for her child if she can possibly fob it off on someone else. Why did she have a baby, again? She could have just adopted a pet; the world is full of unwanted ones.

At least Caitlin Flanagan admits out loud that there are tradeoffs to having a nanny. And I'm not fond of Caitlin Flanagan.

Wonder if she also asked the immigrant nanny to breast-feed the kid. Hey, wet-nursing is an old and proud tradition! I'm sure she's down with that.

I do see one upside to this, though - namely, the possibility that the various participants in the Mommy Wars can finally declare a truce and focus on something they all have in common: hating on this chick.

7/25/2006 12:07 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ahh yes, mng, you seem to have struck a live nerve.

7/25/2006 12:58 AM  
Blogger Mike said...

It is clear that Amy Sohn is selling something, but the question is what, and to whom.

From the sounds of it, what she isn't selling are the two pilots she has recently written. Based on the quality of her writing on her site it is not that hard to see why.

So what exactly is she selling?

One could conclude that she is actually suggesting that children being raised by their own parents are "bad for the children and bad for the mom. It's just plain bad."

While her horrific punctuation might be throwing me off, I think she is drawing on her year of part-time parenting experience to assert that all of the research done in this field, by every legitimate academic, all around the world, up to this point is flawed.

It is an interesting position to take, and we should not simply overlook it as the ramblings of someone trying to sooth their own guilt conscious.

She is after all a college educated woman, and not some brain-dead simpleton clinging to the na?ve notion that parents have the possibility to play a profoundly meaningful role in early childhood development.

Some of her other fascinating positions include "If you are a college-educated woman with a child, you should outsource your child care" and "Childcare should be the province of immigrant women trying to get a leg up."

These statements beg the question, exactly which institution of higher learning is responsible for helping to shape this fascinating worldview?

Perhaps Ms Sohn should consider hustling them for a refund in exchange for a promise to never disclose their role in the creation of such a progressive thinker.

7/25/2006 2:33 AM  
Anonymous Brooklynnelson said...

Let me pitch my documentary film idea...Amy and Mr. Nice Guy riding the Wonder Wheel together, discussing parenting. (We would use the interior cars that sway back and forth if the subjects were amenable.)

7/25/2006 2:22 PM  
Blogger bernalgirl said...

I think I figured out Amy Sohn's cosmic identity: she's not the Devil, she's the one who runs into the convenience store to buy the Devil a pack of cigarettes.

Cribbed from an old West Wing episode, but seems valid in this case.

7/26/2006 2:40 AM  
Blogger Highlander said...

First, the minute a so called parent says the word 'nanny', you simply have to stop listening to them. They aren't parents, they don't know anything about parenting, they aren't qualified to comment on parenting in any particular. They are dilettantes with children, whose kids will be raised by hired strangers, and as such, they are beneath the contempt of any real parent who really expends any actual time and effort and love on their actual children.

Second... well, no. That's pretty much all. Except to say, if you're not going to raise your kids, I am of the opinion you should not have them. And those who choose not to raise kids certainly shouldn't run their yaps about how those that do, do.

7/28/2006 9:52 AM  
Blogger mr. nice guy said...

highlander: you're so wrong that it's not even funny. wait, no it IS actually funny. hilarious even.

we have a nanny. three days a week. i'm home mondays, mom's home thursdays (so there's a parent with her more than half the time ... there was also a parent home with her for the entire first year of her life). hiring a nanny is a major expense for us, but ... not working is not an option financially. call me a dilettante all you want, Judge Judy, but i think i do a pretty good job parenting. also amy sohn, to her credit, is home more days a week than i am.

you people on the internet is a crazy bunch, you dig? jeez.

7/28/2006 10:58 AM  
Anonymous Matt said...

I find it interesting that such an attention groupie would take down page in question. No problems, though, thanks to Google, it's still in the cache. http://72.14.203.104/search?q=cache:uvhB47GSIYIJ:www.amysohn.com/askamy/2006/summer06.htm

To me, this is the most telling comment: "There is nothing that only I can do for her."

How very sad.
For her child to have learned at such an early age that her mother is replaceable. Or worse, being taught that by her mother. In that short statement she has let us all know that her child is nothing more than a convenient accessory.

7/29/2006 6:34 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Boy, sounds like this lady doesn't so much have a problem with other parents as she is feeling sorry for herself that she actually had the never to have a child. I pity her daughter.

7/31/2006 9:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The part about hiring the nanny when the kid was sick made me think of a variation on a Chris Rock joke:
When the kid calls the nanny "mom" and the mom "Amy", you know it's going to be fucked up.

8/03/2006 10:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

amy sohn has always been a self indulgent privileged and clueless goat
presuming to speak for the women of NY on the topics of dating, sex, relationships, whatever.

just because she's passed another human being through her wretched vagina -- why should that change?

i wonder how her nanny describes amy to her friends.

giggle. i'm sure it's not so sweet.

8/12/2006 1:56 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know this is old hat by now, but i just stumbled across this brilliant response to Amy's idiotic piece of "writing". I would like to say to Amy: Writing about your twat (and now, what came out of it and not just what went into it!) isn't hard either, maybe you should outsource that to some immigrants too.

8/16/2006 2:23 PM  
Blogger XDs Mommy said...

Can someone explain to me why this woman had a child to begin with? Thank God the nanny is raising the kid because I can't imagine what he would turn out like if this woman was allowed to.
Great response Mr. Nice Guy. This brain dead SAHM thanks you.
Yeah, poop IS funny! And develpoment IS relevant conversation. I'll be coming by to read more of your rants and stories after this.

6/16/2007 5:49 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

This woman obviously wrote this to inflame tempers and stir up feelings. There is no way she could be truly serious. The Tibetan nanny thing is really great. The cable she's talking about is definitely at her own home for her layabout husband to watch while Tibet sits the kid. Why does a woman who has an unemployed stay at home husband need a nanny at all, I wonder?

It's no surprise that the moms she knows are boring and miserable...any other kind of person would avoid her.

7/14/2007 6:40 PM  

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