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Wednesday, November 01, 2006

wherein i whine like a little self-pitying kicked puppy

hi all. everyone's fine -- thanks for your concern.

but i need a few reasons why i should keep updating this bad boy. it's not really doing much for me these days. i don't particularly feel like writing about all the wacky, zany things my kid does because i don't really want to turn into one of those insufferable people who only talks to you about his wacky, zany kids. it's frankly not that interesting in the long run. i'm also increasingly more inclined to protect her privacy.

got a lot going on at work, buying a house, blah blah, and this has turned into a chore. so i'm thinking, if i continue writing in this space, it may be in a different format. then again, it may not. i don't know. i ain't getting paid enough for this. i guess it wouldn't very nice of mr nice guy to just stop writing without giving the 5 of you who read a heads up. so. i don't know. what's the point? what do you all think?


Anonymous Anonymous said...

stop whining, start writing, we miss you terribly.

11/01/2006 11:24 AM  
Blogger barbara rushkoff said...

I'm new here, but I really enjoy your posts, particularly the one where you defend SAHMs. I totally understand your sentiments though. Maybe take a break and only write when you feel like it? I'll keep checking back. No pressure though. Do what ya feel and thanks for everything so far.

11/01/2006 11:27 AM  
Blogger Jacqueline said...

Aw... well, this blogging thing is supposed to be fun, so don't do it if you aren't having fun anymore, but I'll miss you and your wacky offspring.

11/01/2006 11:30 AM  
Anonymous kristin said...

I'm just glad to read a blog where the person isn't giving up and moving to suburbia because he (or she) had a kid.

11/01/2006 11:42 AM  
Anonymous Heather said...

Kristin nailed the exact reason I read as well.

11/01/2006 11:53 AM  
Blogger Steve said...

Nope...keep up the writing when you can. We still read you.

11/01/2006 12:15 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

if you don't want to write about your kid, write about something else! i do enjoy your blog - cracks me up. if format changes, no sweat - just let us know!

11/01/2006 12:27 PM  
Blogger Musing said...

Your demographic is under represented in Blogland ! You have an obligation to stay with it for all of us who want non-mom-blogs !

11/01/2006 12:34 PM  
Anonymous kay said...

Dude, keep writing! you're too talented to stop.

11/01/2006 12:35 PM  
Blogger Candace said...

Keep writing if you want, don't if you don't. Not much help? Sorry.

11/01/2006 12:36 PM  
Blogger SETH said...

Where else am I going to steal content for my MySpace page if you go away?

If you go away, I'll miss you something awful. Anything would be better than nothing.

11/01/2006 12:37 PM  
Blogger Moo Moo said...

oh please don't leave us! You write so well, and we love the stories... kid stories too :)

Don't leave PLEASE!!!

11/01/2006 12:55 PM  
Anonymous Sisco said...

Wherein I tell you more than you want to know.

In addition to finding your commentary v v v funny, I find it moving. It's smart with that touch of Han Solo vulnerability I crave in everyday life.

You'll follow your instincts about protecting your baby--I feel the same way about mine, and it's hard to know where we cross that line of turning complex experience into a shitty, objectifying anecdote (to quote six degrees of separation). But I suspect writing is probably a risky endeavor anyway, maybe especially in blog form. It's your writing that's so right on, your ability to take the moments and the thoughts and turn them into art, man. That's work, for real.

The nanny. The nanny lock-out. The mistaken injuries. The shots. The walking. And I laughed so hard I cried at your hemangioma posts (our baby, who's maybe a month or two older than yours, has one--a whatchacallit noncancerous vascular tumor--on her eyelid that we've been watching while negotiating both the medical community and the community of idiots who want to tell us in front of our daughter what they think about it). So, I say, along with many: write on anything, if you can manage it, or want to.

Finally, last year, when our little one was 8 months old, we moved from Fort Greene, where we'd been for 10 years, to the West. The great Pacific Northwest. Portland. The kinder gentler fuck, if you know what I mean. Where people have bumper stickers that say "What would Buddha do?" Please don't leave me, Mr. Nice Guy. You're our only hope.

11/01/2006 1:12 PM  
Anonymous Kathy said...

I very much enjoy reading your blog, and do like when you talk about your baby, but also your funny stories about whatever is going on. They make me happy. Which is certainly reason enough for a total stranger to keep posting.

11/01/2006 1:16 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Holy CRAP. IF you retire I will have no reason to live....... please oh please find the strength to carry on with your noble journey. I guess you should do what is best for you though ........SIGH!

11/01/2006 1:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Arggghhhh! I check every day, nothing- and now this! Unbelievable, Mr. "Nice" Guy!

11/01/2006 1:28 PM  
Blogger henna said...

Right on Seth!

MNG - do what does it for you. For the record, I love your writing, and story telling, and your perspective of 'parent' as both a dad and as a city dweller. This from me out in the country of the east coast.

Either way, I'll keep checking in...

11/01/2006 1:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

don't leave us!!!

11/01/2006 1:32 PM  
Anonymous Jessica said...

You don't know me, but I think you're super. I like the way you put things together. I'll definitely keep reading, if you keep posting. It doesn't need to be cute-baby stories, or funny stuff, or anything in particular. I just know I'll find it interesting, no matter what it is, because you have a good brain, and a delightful way. That's more than enough for me. Thanks.

11/01/2006 1:37 PM  
Blogger mr. nice guy said...

holy nice tingly feelings! thanks to all you lovely peoples. i am going to have to stop the moping and start the writing again. sorry for the wet blanketness. i am thinking it's temporary.

11/01/2006 1:44 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

no!!! keep writing. i've been hooked ever since the amy/mom stuff -- you're the best!

11/01/2006 2:04 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

for all of us SAHM'S in god forsaken middle of Wisconsin - don't leave us! we need your stories just to get through the day!

11/01/2006 2:10 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Another voice here offering to kiss your ass and beg you not to leave. Your site is one of my favorites. I just think you're funny, and I admire and enjoy your writing and your perspective on life. I would be seriously bummed if you left.

11/01/2006 2:26 PM  
Anonymous Becky said...

Oh come on!!! I love your blog!! I don't even really like kids all that much and yet you manage to write about them with such wit and self-deprecation that I read EVERY word. I'd miss ya if you left for good....Just had to stop lurking and post for this one though.

11/01/2006 2:29 PM  
Anonymous marian said...

I love reading you but totally understand. I'm changing the direction of my blog lately, having made the decision to stop writing about my family and protect their privacy. So I've been writing about more serious things, what I'm thinking, etc. and I've only lost a few readers. I've let go of the whole notion of having big numbers and am just writing for myself now.

I find your honesty about this to be refreshing.

11/01/2006 2:35 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Don't go!! Take your time and regroup butI'll be waiting for new posts!

11/01/2006 2:39 PM  
Anonymous sheameister said...

I rarely comment--but you should know that you're one of only 5 blogs I have bookmarked and check on regularly. I set a high bar for blog read-worthiness, and you've consistently measured up.

As a former loop-dwelling Chicagoan who now lives in the South and has a kid about the same age as yours, I find myself living vicariously through your urban-daddy lifestyle. Reading your blog makes me wish I was doing this parent thing in Chicago, yet causes me to thank my lucky stars that I'm NOT, all at the same time. : ) Write about whatever you want (I think some of your non-kid-related anecdotes are actually your best stuff), but don't leave.

11/01/2006 2:39 PM  
Blogger zygote daddy said...

MNG, yours is the blog I look forward to seeing in Bloglines the most. But don't keep writing for my sake. If you don't like doing it anymore, then for god's sake stop. For myself, I've decided that when blogging stops being a fun creative outlet and starts becoming a chore, I'm out.

11/01/2006 2:47 PM  
Anonymous JustLinda said...

How about this -- finding and commenting on various articles about parenting. That still keeps you in the daddy role and still keeps you writing your funny funny stuff, but takes it out of the personal realm and yet still keeps it pertinent and interesting to your audience???

11/01/2006 2:49 PM  
Anonymous Sarah said...


Never have commented before, but I have to say that you are like the only blog I check! A friend of mine shot me your birth story, I peed my pants, and have been hooked ever since. I too am a sahm and respect your position on many things...
I better go before this gets rambly and mushy...
I would miss you if you stopped but would understand totally...

11/01/2006 2:52 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Add me to the list of devoted fans... please don't go! You are genius and I would miss your blog more than I miss... well, anything probably. Don't quit!

11/01/2006 3:20 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Just another reader who would be sad to see you go.

11/01/2006 3:22 PM  
Anonymous Toronto Mommy said...

Stop the insanity! This blog must go on. You are so awesomely awesome I can't even articulate it properly - hence the "awesomely awesome" useage.

11/01/2006 3:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Not to be too stalkerish but my husband and I laughed to hyperventilation at your description of the Tea Lounge and have been reading your blog since Mrs. Nice Guy was expecting. Take a break if you need, but you'll be much missed.

11/01/2006 4:01 PM  
Anonymous janisfan said...

I would be so sad if you dd is about a month and a half younger than yours and it is great seeing what she will be up to. Plus, itis so great having a dad s perspective.

11/01/2006 5:07 PM  
Blogger Alexis said...

Ok, Mr. Nice Guy -
I have been with you since before the mucus plug incident. Before psychotic nanny escapades, and certainly before the sad loss of the speakeasy house, (which I was totally gonna ask to visit - not that you'd let me - but you have to ask). I hope you NEVER stop posting - you are fucking hilarious. If you stop posting I want a monthly email or a book or tv series - SOMETHING.

You have such a gift and an incredibly witty insight into everything.

So, come on. Have some fine scotch and share. x x x Kisses from London

11/01/2006 5:11 PM  
Anonymous Sallyacious said...

I would miss you terribly. You're one of the sites I check every day.

On the other hand, I'm a big fan of "do what you need to," and if you need to not do this anymore, I'll shed a couple of shiny tears of loss and then get on with my own life as you are with yours.

11/01/2006 5:40 PM  
Anonymous Glennia said...

Dude, you can write about whatever you want, whenever you want. No pressure. You're awesome!

11/01/2006 6:15 PM  
Blogger Ted said...

Write about all the trials of owning a house. You'll find there is no end to the irritating things your house will find for you to do.

11/01/2006 6:30 PM  
Blogger h said...

dude, your blog is one of the funnier ones out there. regardless of what you write about. keep it up or not, your choice...but you will be missed if you decide to stop.

11/01/2006 7:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...


11/01/2006 7:25 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Your blog is the only thing I live for. Bear that in mind next time you try to give me a heart attack!

11/01/2006 7:50 PM  
Anonymous DebbieS said...

Plleeeeze don't leave!! Moving sucks, wish we could all order you a pizza on move-in day so you wouldn't have to cook. Maybe once you move in you'll feel more inspired to write again?

11/01/2006 7:53 PM  
Anonymous laurie said...

well, your post just appeared in my newsfeed, but i see i'm not the first to rush over here to say "AAAAAAAAGHH!"

i am so grateful whenever your name turns bold in my blogroll, often saving it for last so i can truly savor it instead of it just being a stop along the way.

sharp crisp witty writing about parenting, knee surgery, house hunting (i originally typed "hose" hunting -- and i bet you could even make that interesting), the russian nanny mafia, and the tot lot. and you've even been ripped off on myspace -- what greater compliment could you be searching for?

but, if it ain't fulfilling, drop it. we'll learn to live without you (even though we won't be happy about it). just be sure to let us know if you launch a new venture, like a book or a graffiti gang.

you heard?

11/01/2006 7:56 PM  
Anonymous Linzbaby1 said...

Hi there Mr. Nice Guy. I've been reading since your wife became pregnant. I was pregnant at the same time. My husband and I laugh at the antics you went through because we relate. My holidays would not be complete without Turducken thanks to you. I love reading your blog and I check it everyday.

11/01/2006 8:08 PM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

Your blog is hilarious. Please keep writing!!!!!!

11/01/2006 8:23 PM  
Anonymous Jenn said...

dude - keep writing about whatever the hell you want! The post that got me hooked here? One about your ipod crapping out. *then* I realised you were blogging about your then-expecting life and subsequent baby. whatever it is, it's all good.

11/01/2006 8:29 PM  
Blogger Jule Ann said...

Do what you want, but please don't feel unloved. Here be some quality writing, and some of my loudest laugh out loud blog reading moments. But, then again, I can completely understand not wanting to blog anymore if it's feeling like a chore. That's the beauty of an RSS reader, though... If you don't update for 2 months, and then, bam! an entry, I will still be there to read it!

11/01/2006 8:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I also enjoy your posts and would miss your updates, but I'd understand if you don't want to do it anymore. Thanks for sharing your writing and adventures with us.

11/01/2006 9:03 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

like they all are saying: if you're sick of writing, stop. but I love reading your blog. it's fucking hilarious. you're a great writer, with exactly the correct proportion of irreverence to honesty.


11/01/2006 9:26 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I know I'm coming late to the comments but I don't have much to say except that you're my favorite blog. Seriously. I have all these other blogs on bloglines but when I see a new Mr. Nice Guy post I get really excited. I love when you write about being a dad but I love the other stuff to so keep on keepin on.

11/01/2006 9:31 PM  
Anonymous kate in salt lake said...

Mr. Nice Guy,
Do not leave us! I cannot tell you how many times I've emailed friends your blog telling them to read a particular post. I think I have forwarded your post about your trip to the Inn at Little Washington to at least 25 people. Seriously, you are too funny and too talented to leave the blogging world.

11/01/2006 10:47 PM  
Blogger Fairly Odd Mother said...

Shoot, I should have commented before this, but I LOVE your blog--just am a bit shy about commenting when in the company of greatness. I'd seriously miss you but totally understand if you need a break. Heck, I started a blog, like, a week ago, and already I am sick of myself! But, do try to stay. You are a great writer.

11/01/2006 11:11 PM  
Blogger Antipodeesse said...

Dear Mr Nice Guy,

some of us just might throw ourselves from the nearest high place, clad in a ridiculous costume, if you stop writing, and you wouldn't want to be responsible for THAT spectacle now would you?!

Best wishes,

11/02/2006 2:07 AM  
Blogger onyx said...

Oh what? You want us to beg?

Please please please on bended knee etc etc etc don't go, out life in meaningless without you.

11/02/2006 3:06 AM  
Blogger Kara said...

I don't really like your blog. I just like you because you're really really good in bed.

Oops. Did I say too much?

11/02/2006 8:41 AM  
Anonymous MetroDad said...

As KC & the Sunshine Band once said, "so please don't go. don't go. don't go away. please don't go.
don't go, I'm begging you to stay."


11/02/2006 9:33 AM  
Anonymous Anna S. said...

Write for us, please!
About anything. It's all good, as much as I love the baby stuff.

And why not sell out and sell ads?
It's only fair that you get paid for entertaining us so much!

Can't wait to hear your take on homeownership!

11/02/2006 1:21 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

dearest mr. nice guy, so in need of love. How would my faraway family members find out what I do with my time if you stop blogging? You know who this is.

11/02/2006 4:02 PM  
Blogger MommaSpaz said...

Mr. Nice Guy, you are loved... and I would say 59+ comments prove that to be so!

11/02/2006 9:53 PM  
Blogger ollie said...

Nooooooooooooooooo! Who will defend us against the evil Amy Sohn? You can't leave! You just can't. Oh I get it. You've got a HOUSE now. You're just too good for us now, right? Whatever. See if I care. (Waaaah! I do!)

11/03/2006 8:46 PM  
Blogger TheBombStepMom said...

I am not even a Mom and I read you often. My sis-in-law linked me to you and I find you hilarious and extremely interesting. I read from S.A. Texas and being a Texan who loves N.Y. makes it even more intriguing. "Write On"...way more than 5 people read you!!!

11/05/2006 7:51 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

your writing is great, v funny. to be honest, the kid stuff is hilarious and touching, but mixing it up would be fine too. for those of us with small kids, i think we all agree that all kid all the time can be too much..

11/07/2006 9:27 PM  
Anonymous lamech said...

Holy heck, dude. I miss a week and you threaten to QUIT?! And of course now everyone else has posted in the meantime, so this is probably too late to really count, since you're clearly still writing. But anyway, to get my two cents in: you rawk, please don't stop writing, we need more hilarious urban dad blogs in the world.

11/07/2006 9:44 PM  
Anonymous elana said...

i'm late to this, but i had to post to beg you not to stop writing. you kept me sane through months of being up all night with newborn twins in a tiny new york apartment. please don't go!

11/30/2006 11:25 PM  

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